Comments on: The ego is hateful http://www.letterneversent.com/the-ego-is-hateful/1240/ Tell me when to go. Thu, 02 Feb 2012 11:46:00 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.1 By: Nyssa23 http://www.letterneversent.com/the-ego-is-hateful/1240/comment-page-1/#comment-891 Nyssa23 Tue, 30 Dec 2003 15:09:52 +0000 http://www.letterneversent.com/index.php/archives/2003/12/19/the-ego-is-hateful/#comment-891 Well, I think having a baby made me less self-absorbed, if that's what you mean. And remember, there is no love without the eventuality of loss. You just have to let yourself go and feel. It's not like you get do-overs or anything. I regret very much the times I could have done or even felt more and held myself back. Well, I think having a baby made me less self-absorbed, if that’s what you mean.

And remember, there is no love without the eventuality of loss. You just have to let yourself go and feel. It’s not like you get do-overs or anything. I regret very much the times I could have done or even felt more and held myself back.

]]> By: chris http://www.letterneversent.com/the-ego-is-hateful/1240/comment-page-1/#comment-890 chris Sun, 21 Dec 2003 18:56:37 +0000 http://www.letterneversent.com/index.php/archives/2003/12/19/the-ego-is-hateful/#comment-890 That's a good point and often when I start getting neurotic I'll try to start cleaning and doing things to take my mind off. That’s a good point and often when I start getting neurotic I’ll try to start cleaning and doing things to take my mind off.

]]> By: r@d@r http://www.letterneversent.com/the-ego-is-hateful/1240/comment-page-1/#comment-889 r@d@r Sat, 20 Dec 2003 16:06:15 +0000 http://www.letterneversent.com/index.php/archives/2003/12/19/the-ego-is-hateful/#comment-889 i hate to use cliches on you, but the only way i've ever been able to make that work is "one day at a time", or as the zen buddhists like to say, "chop wood, carry water". ego tells you that ordinary is bad, but ordinary in the end is what saves you. we can all have big dreams and big creativity when these things serve us in some way, but sometimes they can lead to grandiosity. one time when i was as close as i've ever been to a nervous breakdown -- seriously scared i was going to lose my sanity -- my shrink told me on the phone to do "ordinary things" like washing dishes, folding laundry, etc. -- anything that increased the feeling of "normalness". this is actually great advice even when you are doing well. anything that you have been avoiding or procrastinating that weighs on your mind -- gently sit yourself down in front of it, breathe deeply, and take time to finish it. if you succeed at that, see if it leads you to another thing on that list. life is complicated and there's never any easy or sure answers, but simplicity is sometimes a good direction to move in. i hate to use cliches on you, but the only way i’ve ever been able to make that work is “one day at a time”, or as the zen buddhists like to say, “chop wood, carry water”. ego tells you that ordinary is bad, but ordinary in the end is what saves you. we can all have big dreams and big creativity when these things serve us in some way, but sometimes they can lead to grandiosity.

one time when i was as close as i’ve ever been to a nervous breakdown — seriously scared i was going to lose my sanity — my shrink told me on the phone to do “ordinary things” like washing dishes, folding laundry, etc. — anything that increased the feeling of “normalness”. this is actually great advice even when you are doing well. anything that you have been avoiding or procrastinating that weighs on your mind — gently sit yourself down in front of it, breathe deeply, and take time to finish it. if you succeed at that, see if it leads you to another thing on that list.

life is complicated and there’s never any easy or sure answers, but simplicity is sometimes a good direction to move in.

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