Death and life are not two but one. You must destroy something to create something else. Creation itself can be a destructive act. Change can cause discomfort and painful uncertainty, but this discomfort is beneficial. Change is the essence of life. Everything I have learned has been the result of pain or has caused pain in some fashion. There is no comparable teacher. People simply do not learn from their success. Positive experiences do not penetrate the same way. There is an upside. Hardship can create a sense of value since real value is only understood in terms of contrast. There can be no good without bad. No understanding of value without loss. All that aside, sometimes I feel like razing the earth with the fire of my third eye as I do the dance of destruction.
Come on, you really should try kundalini yoga sometime. ;)